Mature for younger dating
All of my theories about why I was drawn to older men were partially true, but I never owned—or wanted to own—the most obvious: I was a product and a perpetuator of society’s collective messaging and conditioning that implies a man is valued in his older age and a woman is not.
It’s , Woody Allen and almost every Woody Allen film; it’s our current president; your female co-worker who has an affair with her much older male boss; it’s the neighbor down the street whose second wife is half his age.But, until recently, nothing really got to the heart of it. It’s all of us.” Something about the way she said it made me stop short.I was on the phone with a friend, musing about my relationship patterns, when the proverbial light bulb went off. It had never occurred to me that the forces behind my May-December romances weren’t all that unique. My relationships had happened in a social vacuum, one in which the rules of engagement had patriarchy written all over them.It was an unspoken transaction, a power dynamic that discreetly entitled him to my compliance and affection, an undercurrent that I don’t think either of us perceived at the time.
In defying social norms, I’d actually just been reinforcing them. It’s far more acceptable and common for older men to date younger women in our culture.
I had to open the door and vomit out the side of the car every few minutes on our way back to the home of the Indian family I stayed with.