Dating a guy much shorter than you
There's nothing I can do about my height to resist these norms, but I can certainly say that I'm not a "small" person, aside from physically, and guys come to see that soon after meeting me.
However, some things are near inescapable; I wish I had a penny for every time a guy called me a "firecracker" as a compliment.
As a blonde, blue-eyed woman of average height, I get asked out a lot more, though I'm not 100% sure dating's actually any easier!
Brett: I'm 5'8", so I've always felt I'm in this weird middle ground of not really knowing if I'm "short" or not.
Every "amazon" and "giant" these men compare me to — they are PEOPLE. So when men reassure me that I'm not "too tall," it isn't flattering — it's infuriating.
Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.
Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.
I think the bigger issue is how comfortable random men are talking to me about my body.
My height isn't a purely aesthetic feature you can comment on candidly, like a coat or a hat.
The root cause of all that self-consciousness is that toxic masculinity garbage that makes us believe the taller you are, the "manlier" you are, and the better you are.